some things i need to remind myself of

real love is unconditional.

it is not based on emotion. it is not contingent on the actions of others, while it itself is best expressed by action. true love is unshakable. it is the most powerful thing of all.

love hurts. it is not easy. Christ died for us out of love. out of the desire for us to be nearer to our Father. love was reason enough for God to become a man. love covers a multitude of sins. it keeps no record of wrong. what an idea…especially for us. us as small, wounded little creatures. what an idea to be loved like that…

we can’t love like this. and yet we are commanded to love ourselves, love others like this. only He can through us. we are no more than vessels that all too often get in the way of it. we are selfish. we want everything now. we hurt ourselves, we hurt others – even when we don’t mean to because we can’t see what He sees in us. it can be one of the most difficult things for us to accept. the harder we fight it, the more tragic we become. but once we embrace it, once we allow it in little by little…oh, the beauty.

love heals. it doesn’t give up. it sustains us even in the darkest of times.

these are just some of the things i’ve learned in the last few years. it is everything to me. it was something that had been so warped, so destroyed for me…and yet He has opened my eyes to remarkable truths. and one of the central truths is that love is sacrifice.

love is everything.


word of warning 

you know when you pray for more patience? 

(some of you know where i’m going with this…)

if you haven’t already done it, typically what happens is when you pray for “more patience,” you actually get a plethora of opportunity to practice it. so, essentially….you won’t get a magical dose if patience, but you WILL get some annoying people or frustrating circumstances that will force you into either learning and exercising patience, or just cause you to lose your damn mind.

i’ve been there, done that. 

but it applies to everything else, too. for me, learning what His love is and how to express it…it just so happens the same deal applies. maybe it’s because of my past, maybe it’s because i’m such a hopeless romantic, but can’t help this fixation. so i pray to understand it, i pray to experience more if it, and what do i get?….the opportunity to practice. to learn. to be a vessel for it. and it is hard, yo. it’s not how you think it’s going to be. it’s really thinking about others and not yourself. it’s really expecting nothing in return, even when you have given all you have and are feeling completely and utterly empty. it’s all Christ did for us. it’s what we are supposed to do for each other. 

i didn’t realize what i was asking for all these years. and with each passing day, i’m feeling the beautiful agony of it more and more. 


look down to no one

the blog’s title comes from the line of the movie, Ever After.

“Cinderella” is dressing above her station in order to release a friend who had been sold by her stepmother into slavery. as Cinderella prepares, her friend coaches her: “If you’re going to be a noblewoman, you must play the part,” and he adds, “look down to no one.

if i have learned anything this year it’s how to play that part.

as i consider what it might mean to view others from His perspective, it truly simplify things. He sees humanity. He died for all, whether all believe it or not. He loves all, whether all know it or not.  no one is above the other. no “sinner” worse than another. no “saint” better than another. He loves us all perfectly and completely. He loves me. He loves those who have hurt me. He loves you. perfectly and completely.

while so many of us worry about perception and what others think about us, here was how most people perceived Christ while he was on earth:

The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Behold, a gluttonous man and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’

(matthew 11:19, nasb)

they saw Jesus, God on earth, as a drunk, as a glutton, as someone who was a friend of all those people. but did He stop eating with them? no. drinking with them? no. and yet He never once compromised. He never once stopped being Who He is. it almost seems that He preferred the company of those that “christians” these days often hide from and picket against.

i am a broken person. we all are. while some of us may be a little farther in our journey than others, it is important to remember that we are all on even ground. not above or below. no matter what you may have done or had done to you. the sooner we stop measuring people by their pasts or lifestyles or statuses, and see them as someone He has placed on earth for us to be Jesus to, the better we can find our selves to be. it’s not about believing you can change anyone. you can’t. it’s about knowing Him. and you’ll find a profound change take place in you and your perspective that you didn’t expect.

i know that as long as i’m alive, there is opportunity to learn and grow. even when i fail or relapse or screw up, there is always hope – always another chance – just so long as i’m breathing. when you let go of traditions, of “DOs” and “DON’Ts”, when you start pursuing Him in the way He is meant to be pursued – not by threats or guilt, but by grace…that is when you start to know Him. that is when you start to truly understand the value of ALL life.


 be the change you wish to see in the world. -ghandi